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The big lie a virgin nerd tells themselves is that they will make a satisfying life based purely on their intellectual pursuits.
For some minority of nerds, this may be possible, but I think for many others, the “life of the mind” becomes excruciatingly lonely and embarrassing.
They are good at reinforcing the idea of how great it is to work in the chosen field, but they aren’t good at intimacy. Too bad because intimacy is, for most people, what gives meaning to life.
Being a virgin is so damn shameful and embarrassing
Imagine being a 23-year-old virgin and missing out on something as basic and normal as sex. Most teenagers 6 years younger are getting it just by being themselves. People talk about their sex life like it’s just a normal daily thing. And they expect you to join them. Social media and society shove sex and relationships down our throats 24/7, marketing it as the pinnacle of human/personal achievement. If you aren’t getting it you are a loser worthy of mockery and ostracizing. Sex is a completely normal part of life that is regularly and readily accessed by people just by being themselves. Being a virgin past high school is something that brings nothing but shame and embarrassment, it is a sign of being an undesirable loser incapable of even the most basic human experiences that most teenagers get daily. Sex is as easy for normal people as making a sandwich for lunch, and the virgin adult completely fails at it.
You will never forgive yourself for being a virgin at this age.
In this website, We show the nature of human connection to give inspiration for you to find and sustain love in your life.
Inspiration to find the excitement, joy, fun, satisfaction, and pleasure of sex.
Sexual motivation is the desire to gratify our sexual needs, and it entails any process that drives a person to seek out and attend to sexual contact. It is recognized as a basic need, and this is apparent as it is even placed at the bottom of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs alongside air, water, and food
If you don’t have the Sexual Intimacy part, you can kiss off Esteem and Self-Actualization. If you don’t have the Physiological Sex part, you won’t get Sexual Intimacy. You’re going to be a non-person
Can you imagine how it must feel to be a non-person?
To feel that you will never have sex, raise a family, or fully participate in society?
In particular, the virgin is missing this
The most pleasure, fun, joy, happiness, love, and satisfaction a human being can have
Here is a free activity; an activity that makes people happy, and what’s the matter with all of you not engaging in it? Most literature on the topic presumes that sexual attraction and desire do exist in everyone. Sex is, therefore, a critical part of everyone’s life.
There must be something wrong with people who don’t have it.
Happiness is a cornerstone of our well-being; finding things that bring us joy is vital. It fuels our motivation and gives us hope for the future. Sex is not optional. It is not something we can do without. Sex is a biological necessity. A healthy love life is as necessary to a person’s well-being as nutritious food, exercise, or clean water. Evolution has sculpted our brains and bodies specifically to build and benefit from lasting romantic connections. (From Wired for Love by Stephanie Cacioppo, PhD)