Key Insights
Many virgin nerds are created and groomed by their parents. This is child abuse. A crime against humanity.
Do you want to raise an object or a human being?
Let’s Start with Genital Mutilation
There are 8 billion people alive in the world. Four billion are male human beings. Only a few of those have had their foreskin cut off, and even fewer girls have had their clitoris removed. These awful practices are just plain power plays on the part of parents over their kids. See The ethics of circumcision. There is nothing genital mutilation does for the kid. It is all about the parent.
What is the Foreskin? The sensitive foreskin is considered to be the primary erogenous zone of the male penis.
Why would you, a parent, want to mutilate a part of your baby to reduce their sexual pleasure for all of their life? To show your power over a defenseless kid? To satisfy some religious belief you have, but probably your kid won’t? To add to some hospital’s profit? That baby is not some object to maim. He is a person to raise with love, respect, and responsibility.
The Virgin Nerd is developed and groomed. Misery, depression, and loneliness start in childhood with parenting and schooling. Don’t let your kid get left out of life. And for humanity’s sake, don’t groom your child for MIT or any other “name” school or job.
The Virgin Nerd may be started by avoiding normal social development. Learn A friend is someone who likes you.
Eyesight
A kid with 20/400 vision doesn’t know that other people see better. Faces don’t mean anything, so people are not remembered or cared about. Dad throws a ball at him and is aggravated that he can’t catch it. Any type of team sport is impossible, the near-blind kid can’t see what is going on. Don’t wait until a teacher notices your lonely nerd kid can’t see the whiteboard.
Families
Family involvement in a child’s early years powerfully influences their development. Parents are the child’s initial educators, and the strength of their bond and interactions establishes the skills crucial for the child’s success in life. The virgin nerd is developed in early life.
Sexuality
As human beings, we are inherently intellectual, spiritual, physical, social, emotional, and sexual! As parents, we work hard to make sure our kids are developing appropriately on all these fronts, with the glaring exception of their sexuality. When we ignore, punish, or minimize this integral part of being human, it puts our kids at risk for significant problems.
Don’t develop the ignorant virgin nerd.
In non-prude countries in Asia and modern Europe,
it is unlikely that any teen is a virgin.
- Talking about sex and sexuality is the missing link to prevent a whole bunch of problems later in life. Low self-esteem, depression, guilt, body image problems,
- increased risk of sexual abuse, following the pack, and looking for love in all the wrong places are just a few of the long-term problems.
- Your sexual identity defines you. We need to raise whole children into whole adults who embrace their full selves, including who they are as sexual beings.
- When children are comfortable with their sexual identity and understand sex and sexuality, they are more likely to feel better about who they are as a person and make better decisions.
- Sexuality is core to nearly every aspect of healthy development. Not to sound like Freud here, but sex is a consistent part of daily life for everyone, from babies to octogenarians.
- Sex drives everything we do. Think about it. We are wired up to reproduce, be intimate, create families, and connect physically with our partners.
- Sex is everywhere, and the message kids receive is crazy – “It’s VERY important, and DON’T talk about it!” This is very confusing and not helpful at all.
- When the topic of sex is normal and not weird or secret, kids do better.
Boys & Girls
A child’s sexual knowledge is gained through language and visuals. Here are some words every child needs to know and understand: penis, vulva, breast, balls, butt, pee, poop. Don’t use baby talk. Kids need to know about themselves and the language of their peers well before school age.
Girls are different from boys. All kids need to know about themselves. Unless a child has siblings or is in a nudist environment, they may not know how others look. If you are hiding the fact that there are boys and girls in the world and that they look different, you are doing serious harm to your child. Everyone is born from their mother as a boy or girl. Boys have a penis and balls; girls have a vulva.
Prudity and the Virgin Nerd
Some Virgin Nerds are raised to fear nudity.
It makes no sense to have sex clothed.
Enjoy being naked.
Boners and Sex
Every 3rd-grade boy knows firsthand that his penis gets stiff. Every 3rd-grade girl knows her vagina gets wet and slippery. Every kid knows that their sex organ feels very good when they rub it. They play with it often. It is not wrong to do and talk about. It’s natural. Teach your kid not to masturbate in public before other kids, teachers, or ministers do that for you. Don’t make your kid feel ashamed to do what is naturally a part of life and acceptable in private.
Masturbation is a normal, natural, and healthy behavior that occurs in both sexes and at all ages. It offers various medical and psychological benefits associated with a positive attitude toward sexual activity, including masturbation. There is no known link between masturbation and any mental or physical disorders. In Western cultures, both solo and partnered masturbation is widely regarded as a normal and healthy aspect of sexual enjoyment.
Adults Make Love
No 3rd-grade kid should be made to feel ashamed to see and learn about sex. It is impossible to protect kids from the internet, smartphones, tablets, and computer access to pornographic pictures and videos. Instead of shielding them from online sex, a futile exercise, respect them as sexual beings. Supply appropriate and complete sex education. Encourage them to develop sexuality, body, emotions, and passion that will serve them to grow. Raise the kind of person you would like to know. Raise kids to have social connections, self-confidence, and worth. With the knowledge and emotions for living with peers. 3rd-graders need to know explicit details about sex.
Give your Kid Privacy, Freedom, and a Place to Grow
Attend to your parenting if you notice your kid:
Is embarrassed to use the words: penis, vulva, balls, and poop in everyday conversation.
Is not enthusiastically naked around family members.
Shows embarrassment to see any of the pictures on this page.
Playing mostly alone or with just a few kids of the same sex.
Disliking participating in games or group activities.
Is often “spaced out,” unaware of what is going on around them.
Cannot see the 20/20 line on an eye chart.
Is not able to memorize and repeat a simple rhyme.
Condom & Birth Control
When is it time to discuss birth control with your kid? It would help if it were before he starts having wet dreams or before she has her period. The Chicago School System starts supplying condoms and the instruction on their use by 5th grade (age 11). Every 5th-grade boy is fully capable of poking his penis into a girl and may have been doing it earlier playing “Doctor.”
Social Isolation, Depression, Bullying, Loneliness, Misery, and the making of the depressed nerd start in grade school. Depression may be well along in 7th grade.
Appearance
Please do not let your kid look like a Dork. Fix those crooked teeth and stooped posture. Choose contemporary clothes, haircut, and glasses, and ditch the pocket protectors. Encourage (demand) participation in strenuous team sports, school social activities, and dating.
The Goal
A sexually satisfying life with joy, happiness, companionship, and fulfillment as a normal human being
