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Sex and Sexuality

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The virgin nerd is up there in the tiny wedge of the 10% of adults who have never had sex

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The virgin nerd missed all that.

Wired for Love (Stephanie Cacioppo PhD):
“My scientific research on the brain has convinced me that a healthy love life is as necessary to a person’s well-being as nutritious food, exercise, or clean water. Evolution has sculpted our brains and bodies specifically to build and benefit from lasting romantic connections. When those connections are frayed or ruptured, the consequences to our mental and physical health are devastating.”

All persons are sexual. · Sexuality is a good part of the human experience. · Human beings are sexual from the time they are born until they die. · It is natural to express sexual feelings in a variety of ways. · People engage in healthy sexual behavior for a variety of reasons, including to express caring and love, to experience intimacy and connection with another, to share pleasure, to bring new life into the world, and to experience fun and relaxation.

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The virgin nerd misses this, too.

Sex is not just about physical coupling and affection; it is about all aspects of a person’s sexuality, body, emotions, and passion. Treating sexuality, body, feelings, and passion as taboo subjects never discussed at home harms a kid’s life. The virgin nerd’s life of depression starts young.

Honest, accurate information about sexuality changes lives. It dismantles stereotypes and assumptions, builds self-acceptance and self-esteem, fosters healthy relationships, improves decision-making, and has the potential to save lives. The virgin nerd’s life.

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 Why Good Sex Matters by N.Wise –
“The Health Benefits of Sexual Expression include physical benefits of sexual activity, such as enhanced overall longevity, reduced risk of coronary heart disease, and decreased risk of type-2 diabetes. Studies also have indicated lower rates of prostate cancer in men tied to more frequent ejaculations, and lowered rates of breast cancers in women who are sexually active. Being sexually active tends to enhance immunity, improve sleep, improve fertility, improve mood, reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression, and help people manage chronic pain. And sexual behavior can enhance feelings of well-being and self-esteem and smooth over rough points in a relationship by facilitating bonding.”

People reporting poor sexual satisfaction were plagued to a greater or lesser degree with the inability to experience pleasure in life – a lack of enthusiasm, a deficit in well-being, and a decided inability to enjoy even the simple pleasures. It was as if these people had lost their lust for life. Pain was everywhere: depression, anxiety, addiction, physical ailments, psychic strain, social isolation, financial stress, spiritual suffering.

The people who report having healthy or satisfying sex lives feel better, manifest less depression and anxiety, and experience an overall more complete sense of happiness. The ability to get pleasure from our genitals and be sexual is part of the basic equipment that comes with being human.” 

In addition to supplying the basis of life itself, sex is the family’s foundation, leading to everything good in human society. Sex is linked to how we feel about ourselves and relate to others, our family, and the community.

We would not be having sex if it did not feel spectacularly good. It is about mutual pleasuring and having someone else share the feelings. Having a bonded partner is one of life’s great satisfactions. Being in Love. “people who have intimate relationships live longer and healthier lives and report more personal happiness and satisfaction with the way they live. A number of research studies have shown persuasively that people in intimate relationships live longer and happier lives than those who are not.

Sex is a lifetime of companionship, comfort, pleasure, and satisfaction. When we “make love” we are making a more loving life for ourselves.

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The Virgin Nerd is Stuck at the Very Bottom

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Naked couple havin sex
What most adult couples do 2.6 times a week on average