Key Insights
What most adults do 2.6 times a week.
Having Sex is Part of Being Human
We have sex to make babies
We rarely have sex just to make babies,
but that’s fun, too.
The real reason to have sex is –
Joy, pleasure, fun, excitement, satisfaction
“Sex is life’s cheapest luxury and should be fun and relaxing, a simple, natural pleasure that erases worries, tensions, and burdens. … Using your penis for the purpose nature intended is one of life’s great pleasures and good for your health in general – for your cardiovascular health, mood, and psychological well-being. Penis use is a natural tranquilizer with no harmful side effects.
Nothing in human experience is more fun, exciting, joyful, and satisfying. Look at these kids’ faces. Joy and Love. No kid, once laid, is going to stop. Most kids start having sex in high school.
Where are you on this chart? Almost everybody over 18 is having sex. Lots of sex. Only 10% of adults are not.
You, me, our parents, our friends, neighbors, kids, grandkids, everyone we see, every one of the 7 billion people on earth were produced by a couple. Our whole civilization, society, community, and family are based on couples having sex.
There is nothing “dirty” about having, talking, writing, and seeing sex. We should rejoice in it and enjoy it. Sex is everyone’s birthright.
Common negative beliefs about sex
These can lead to issues like low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, sexual dysfunction, and psychological distress. Ten Most Common Negative Sexual Beliefs
Body Shame and Self-Consciousness
Believing one’s body is unattractive or inadequate, leading to embarrassment or self-consciousness during sexual experiences.
Performance Anxiety
Worrying excessively about one’s ability to satisfy a partner, maintain an erection, achieve orgasm, etc. This increases stress and decreases enjoyment.
Sex is Dirty or Sinful
Cultural or religious conditioning that associates sex with guilt, shame, or immorality hinders the ability to fully enjoy sexual experiences.
Almost everybody is sexually active before marriage. Statistically, nobody is a virgin at marriage. Teen chastity is cruel and unrealistic. The median age of first marriage is about 28, median for first sex is 17, typically 11 years of active sex before marriage.
35% of 40-year-olds in the U.S. are not married. 99% of them are sexually active. 40% of babies in the U.S. are born from unwed mothers. Premarital and non-marital sex is the norm, not the exception. It is silly to pretend otherwise.
Low Sexual Desire is Abnormal
Believing that a lower level of sexual desire is problematic or abnormal, leading to feelings of inadequacy.
Unrealistic Expectations
Comparing one’s sex life to unrealistic portrayals in media or pornography leads to dissatisfaction.
Certain Desires are Wrong or Deviant
Judging oneself for having specific sexual desires or fantasies causes shame.
Sex Should Only Be for Procreation
Believing the primary purpose of sex is reproduction, limiting the exploration of pleasure and intimacy.
Sex as Duty or Obligation
Viewing sex as something one must do for a partner rather than a mutually enjoyable experience.
Fear of Vulnerability/Intimacy
Believing that emotional vulnerability during sex is a weakness that will lead to rejection. The key is recognizing that these beliefs are irrational and stem from external influences rather than reality. With self-awareness and reframing, one can develop a healthier, more positive perspective on sexuality. Deep down, I think sex is wrong Dysfunctional Sexual Beliefs
Physical Benefits of Sex
- Improved heart health – Sexual activity provides a cardiovascular workout and can lower the risk of heart disease, especially for women. Health Benefits of a Good Sex Life
- Pain relief – Orgasms release endorphins that can alleviate pain from headaches, menstrual cramps, arthritis, etc.
- Better sleep – Oxytocin released during orgasms promotes restful sleep.
- Boosted immune system – Frequent sex can increase levels of antibodies that fight colds and infections.
- Exercise benefits – Sex counts as light to moderate physical activity and can help with weight management.
- Gender-specific gains – For men, frequent ejaculation may reduce prostate cancer risk. For women, sex improves vaginal lubrication and bladder control.
Emotional/Psychological Benefits
- Stress relief – Sexual activity and intimacy can provide a break from stressors and reduce anxiety. 237 Reasons to Have Sex
- Increased intimacy/bonding – Oxytocin promotes feelings of closeness, affection, and bonding with a partner.
- Improved self-esteem – A healthy sex life can boost confidence and positive body image.
- Relationship satisfaction – Regular sexual activity strengthens trust, communication, and commitment in a relationship.
- Pleasure and fun – Sexual activity and orgasms provide physical pleasure and can be an exciting, enjoyable experience.
- Emotional expression – Sex allows for the expression of love, intimacy, and emotional closeness with a partner.
The key takeaway is that consensual sexual activity between partners, when practiced safely, can have numerous physical and psychological benefits that contribute to overall well-being.
How to go about it
Kissing, kissing, getting in the mood.
Get naked. Excitement.
Foreplay gets the penis hard, the vagina slippery.
Insertion: Wow! Feels great.
In and out. In and out. Fuck and Fuck.
Deeper, Deeper, Orgasm, Ejaculation.
Resolution, Satisfaction, Joy, Love.
Nothing in life feels better.
The average person has sex – – – a lot. 55% of Americans have sex at least weekly (Durex Survey). Sexually active 16 to 45-year-old Americans average intercourse 138 times a year (2.6 times/week). Half of High School sophomores are already having sex.
Your parents did it, your grandparents did it, and if you want grandkids, you and your kids will do it.
Sex is pair bonding. There are two folks in the picture. At the lowest level, it is about pleasure. Having sex is the most pleasurable activity a human being will ever have. Nothing in life feels better.
