Key Insights
Social Connection is as fundamental to our mental and physical health as food, water, and sleep. Loneliness and isolation are profound threats to our health and well-being.
You’re likely to become a lonely, depressed non-person.
90% of adults are having sexual intercourse 2.6 times a week on average.
If you are not, you do not fit into a society based on intimate couples.
Well-Being and Happiness builds on Love and Belonging
Social isolation is the strongest and most reliable predictor of suicidal behavior.
Suicide is the second leading cause of death in young people. Among 18-to-24-year-olds surveyed in 2020, the CDC said, about 25 percent had seriously considered suicide.
People in a loving, intimate relationship are not likely to commit suicide.
A lonely, depressed, virgin person does not fit in well with our couple-based human society.
The virgin person needs to develop social connections
Become a Happy, Friendly, Joyful Person
Recognize Your Limiting Beliefs
The first step is to identify the negative or limiting beliefs you hold about sex. Pay attention to the critical inner voices that make you feel ashamed, guilty or that sex is wrong or dirty. Write these thoughts down as if someone is saying them to you (e.g. “You are so awkward, no one would want to be sexual with you.”) What’s Ruining Your Sex Life?
Explore the Roots of These Beliefs
Many negative attitudes about sexuality stem from messages received in childhood, past experiences, or religious/cultural upbringings. Explore where these beliefs originated from—were they direct statements from parents or authority figures or attitudes you picked up on? Understanding the roots can help separate the past from your current reality. Limiting Beliefs and How To Overcome Them For a Happier Sex Life
Challenge the Negative Voices
After writing down the critical inner voices, respond to each one from a compassionate, realistic perspective – as you would to a friend. Use “I” statements to reinforce your true point of view (e.g. “I may feel awkward sometimes, but I’m actually a comfortable, affectionate person.”) This helps counter the shaming voices.
Develop a Positive, Accepting Attitude
Let go of restrictive “shoulds” and have an open, curious attitude towards your sexuality and desires. Have self-compassion for any past hurts related to sex. Remind yourself that your sexuality belongs to you to understand and enjoy.
Seek Professional Help
Consider working with a sex therapist or counselor who can provide a safe, non-judgmental space to unpack sexual shame and repression. Cognitive-behavioral techniques can help reframe negative thought patterns. The key is recognizing that your negative beliefs about sex are not reality but limiting perspectives shaped by external forces. With self-compassion and the right guidance, you can develop a healthier, sex-positive outlook.
Learn the social skills required to get laid.
Learn the skills of happiness, good relationships, meaning in life, and joy. Move from a monastic single life to a place where there are couples and potential mates.
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How Do You Start Dating?
How does a virgin nerd use dating apps
Online dating is a way for individuals to find and connect with potential romantic partners through the internet. The typical process involves:
- Creating a profile on a dating website or app
- Using the platform’s features to search for and communicate with other users
- Exchanging messages, sharing photos/videos, and potentially video chatting
- The goal is to build a romantic relationship or find a compatible match
Dating apps have simplified and accelerated the process of finding potential partners. Users can quickly sift through profiles, chat, flirt, and potentially meet up in person. Online dating has become mainstream in the U.S., with it being the most common way for new couples to meet as of 2017.
There are many free dating sites and apps available that provide access to a vast pool of potential partners. With so many options, there is no reason to remain single. Someone out there is likely a compatible match, waiting to connect and share their life with you.
Here is a list of suitable free sites. With billions of potential mates, there is no excuse to be a virgin. Someone out there will mate with you and share your life.
